Tag: family

Letting Go, Apology, and Forgiveness

It was a rainy mid-week. Met up with a friend since my Mom and my brother are out in a seminar and my sister is on her mid-shift. Caught up with the long line in the shuttle station due to the drizzle. While waiting in the line, I was exchanging messages with a friend about this particular book I asked her to read. Since this book has a movie version, aside from discussion, she is planning to watch the movie because she was quite puzzled with the ending. I told her we should watch together because I am afraid it might be too visual that I can’t watch it alone. Promised myself that upon going home, I’m gonna check my movies and save them on my hard drive so that we can watch the movie adaptation during the weekend.

Then I opened the common PC in the house to check my files.

Clicked Drive D. Cannot find my folder. Cannot even find my ‘New Folder’ folder.

Dreading evening.

 

I sent a message to my brother asking him where my files were but he wasn’t answering. Sent him another message because aside from the movies, I need to check on my old files. He told me the virus erased everything.

 

Good grief.

 

Of course I was irritated. I am kind of OC so I keep track and label all my files for future use or reference. I told my brother he could have told me that those files were gone so I would not have assumed all the time that I have them yet they are not there anymore.

 

Then he said sorry.

 

Then I am fine already.

 

I think it just takes a little bit of swallowing your pride when you do something wrong. Knowing my brother, it was not easy for him to do that. But he did. And I believe everyone could. If we let humility take over our selfishness.

 

As for me, I need to learn to let go of things. Those files that were gone may be important but I believe everything in this world has an end. This is a first step for me. To learn to let go. Because things can break. One can lose things. And too much attachment can make anyone insane. And I personally do not want give more importance to things over people and relationships that matter.

I still feel regretful of the corrupted files. But it will give me less things to cling on to. And it made me realise how important my brother is and his apology over what has happened.

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Too Stubborn to Give In: Lessons from Brave

Shane and I was supposed to have our movie bonding two weeks ago but due to the inconsistent weather conditions in Manila, we were only able to catch one last weekend.

Brave is a story about young Merida who is princess of the land. Being the eldest in the family, she would need to take over some time soon, therefore, training her to become like a queen is necessary. And who can better do that job but the queen herself, Merida’s mom, Elinor.

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Brave isn’t your typical princess story. What caught my attention first and made me want to watch it is Merida’s curly redhead. I am actually expecting some love interest in it (like what all princess movies have) but *spoiler* there is none. It didn’t disappoint me, though. Sometimes movies should really focus on other things rather than finding love; and like in this movie, it is pretty realistic that before focusing on a love life, we must learn a thing or two about just life first.

So if it isn’t romance-centric, what do I expect from Brave?

Parents and children should watch it. Most of the time, in a family, nobody wants to lose and everybody wants to prove a point. But what usually happens is all the more we want to win, we think we do but we end up losing our loved ones. I think this movie would help parents listen to and understand their children and children to try expressing themselves in a more pacified and un-rude manner if they want to express something.

If you’re not up for the family theme, I would still say that Brave is worth the watch because it tells how selfish humans could be. We would often want our way that we are willing to sacrifice things that really matter and end up being sorry for our impulsive and unwise decisions.

Drifting from the story, the movie has really good musical scoring, too! And don’t miss Pixar’s short film La Luna in the beginning (it’s a cute treat!)

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Why February is Awesome!

I’ve been in a hiatus for quite some time. So first things first, I would like to share what has happened in this awesome month of February:

1. Super Show 3

This was a blast! One of my favorite artists in KPOP is Super Junior. I was not yet a fan when they were here last year BUT a few months after SS2, I became a convert (that’s the time when they released the version C of 4jib.)

Welcome to SS3 Manila! 🙂

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Risks

While doing my morning ritual of checking out the Tweets that I follow, I stumbled upon Sitti‘s and one of her updates says, “If you wait for perfect conditions, you will never get anything done.” This was inspired by the verse from Ecclesiastes 11:4 (Let me use the version from The Amplified Bible) which says,

He who observes the wind [and waits for all conditions to be favorable] will not sow, and he who regards the clouds will not reap.

Too many times, we came across circumstances where decisions are necessary; and not just simple decisions as what color of flip-flops you would wear or what hairstyle you would have today. Sometimes, decisions which we have to make is a matter of life and death (Yeah, exaggerated maybe.) – Life and death of a career; life and death of a relationship; life and death of a breakthrough.

Most of the time, we calculate too much – looking at our surroundings, checking if each strand of eyebrow is at place or if our shoes are well-polished, not knowing that there proves to be situations when getting caught open and willing to change and motion bears good results.

Waiting for the perfect time to come may not happen if that’s what holds you from doing whatever you need to do, or want to do. Unless you make an action or two, given the circumstances where you’re in, you could never move from where you are now.

Don't be afraid of crossing the other side of the street... Like a kid, there is Someone who could guide you through until you can do it yourself 😉

Taking risks may cost you something, right. But would you rather learn from it or play it safe, waiting for the perfect time until never finding out what could have been? Your choice.

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Of Parents and Chocolates

Who says chocolates are only for kids? Lovers? Sweet tooth?

Well, I bet not. Even your mom will love it!

One night last week, I bought two boxes of chocolates for my mother as a promise. Oh well, she has a sweet tooth so I told her I’m bringing her something the week after… And of course, we kids, when we grow up, should stay true to our promises so I bought her some…

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Who says the homies don't appreciate these? 🙂

I thought, “I’m gonna be broke until the next pay day and I would be consuming my savings already!” but til now, my budget’s still intact. 🙂 Besides, what is spending a few bucks for your mother (or parents, if my father’s here as well)?

If we could spend a whole looooooooooooooot of money on gimmicks, gadgets, accessories, shopping, dates, and other whatevers, why should it be so hard for us to spend some to see our parents happy? It is not that we are obliged to do it for them but let us do it out of love for the ones who loved us when we don’t know it yet.

On a final note, I would just like to share this verse to everyone,

“”Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise-” Ephesians 6:2, NIV

And even if we receive no promise, we should never deprive our parents of anything. They deserve to be treated by us, their little ones, who have grown so fast. Let us spoil them from time to time and see those happy smiles in their faces. 🙂

Motherhood – 1

When I was younger, I feel so forced attending mentoring in our church. People see me as a leader but I just see it as an additional responsibility to my then closed world. I never really wanted to get involved with anyone and neither did I want anyone to meddle with my life – a world of my own where no one else but myself could understand.

 

Years passed and through the efforts of a friend, I was forced  to join the group of young people. I did not plan to continue as I only thought of becoming OP from the rest of the group. I was never sociable and I though they would not ever understand me. I was wrong.

 

Some time after that very instance, I was assigned to handle a small group. Oh boy was i surprised! I don’t want to handle a group. First, I think I am not equipped to take care and teach these people; and next, I don’t want the responsibility that they have vested upon me. Heck! This will definitely ruin all the plans that I have for myself, especially during the weekends when I have lots of things to do. But since I was never really aggressive that time, I gave it a shot and followed orders.

It was definitely a struggle. People are not attending and I feel like they never liked me at all. Later have I found out that during those times, some people from the group are hiding from me because they never thought that small group is any interesting at all. Thing is, they never thought I thought the same. Haha! Everytime I make an excuse that we have a small group meeting some time because of a very important matter, there never really was any reason. I am just, uhm, well, lazy.

 

But God works in ways unimaginable. I could not remember how that occurred but hey! A small group is a place of opportunity; a place of life; a place where blessings dwell. I don’t know how I got rid of my anti-social self, but I’m sure it wasn’t me who had the work done.

 

Now, I am loving small group. It is indeed a place for sharing but it doesn’t end there. It is a place for learning; a place for realizations; a place where you come to know that this world is not just about you but about everyone else around you. It is not just a place where you meet new friends but also a place where you form a family.

 

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Time

Time…

It’s something which when lost will never be recovered.

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Now I wonder why some people tend to give importance on other people’s time when that could have been spent on something more worthwhile. As someone who does a lot of things, it’s pretty obvious that I don’t want to share the time I was given to spend on this planet. I mean, no matter what you say, life is short and you really gotta seize it. At the same time, my life is not confined to just one thing (i.e. work) so I hope people should understand that. I am not going against but I think wasting other people’s time is just plain inconsiderate and disrespectful, no matter who he/she is, no one should leave anyone else hanging.

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I don’t know if I have seized every moment that my father is with us. Being an OFW for quite a time, we have been used to not having him even during important events for the family. One thing I am not used to, though, is seeing him leave. That’s why I am personally refraining myself from going to the airport to send him to his departure flight because I know I can’t help but cry upon seeing him leave (Wherever I am, I still cry only because of the idea that he’s already leaving, what more if I see him do) So there, the pains of making a living for your family; and I am thankful, because even if my father is kinda talkative and impulsive at times, I know he’s doing us an awful lot of good.

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On a lighter note, well, I hate to be cheesy but I simply love the lines from that song Everything by Michael Buble which goes:

In this crazy life

and through these crazy times

it’s you, it’s you;

You make me sing,

you’re every line,

you’re every word,

you’re everything.

Now isn’t that nice? I’m trying to avoid my cheesiness but well, well.;)